Love | 爱的艺术

The Art of Love | 关于爱

1.刘震云《一句顶一万句》

“人的一生，不要太急着爱上一个人，也不要和一个人熟得太快！以十倍速度亲近你的人，最后也会以十倍的速度离开你。不要过度的去关注男人，不要过度的去瞎想，人性本贱！当你开始上心听话，他就像抓住了你的把柄一样，对你忽冷忽热。要和任何人走的太近，多数人都是半人半鬼，表面都是好人，凑近了谁都没法看。"

"In this life, do not be in such a hurry to fall in love with someone, and do not get too close to someone too quickly. Those who approach you at ten times the speed will ultimately leave you at ten times the speed.

Do not give a man excessive attention, and do not overthink things—human nature is inherently fickle. The moment you start caring and becoming 'obedient,' it’s as if he has found your weakness; he will start treating you with hot and cold indifference.

Do not get too close to anyone. Most people are half-human and half-ghost; on the surface, everyone seems decent, but if you look too closely, no one is pleasant to behold."

2. ）美国心理医生斯科特·派克（M. Scott Peck）《少有人走的路》（The Road Less Traveled）.


“获得被爱的唯一途径，是让自己先成为一个值得被爱的人；但当你的首要目标仅仅是‘被爱’时，你便无法成为那个值得被爱的人。这引导我们走向终极的悖论：真爱意味着冒着不被爱的风险，而爱的勇气，本质上就是接受痛苦与失去之可能的勇气。”

"The only way to be assured of being loved is to be a person worthy of love, and you cannot be a person worthy of love when your primary concern is to be loved. This leads us to the ultimate paradox: true love is the risk of being unloved, and the courage to love is the courage to accept the possibility of pain and loss."

3. 埃里希·弗罗姆（Erich Fromm）

“爱是人内心的一种主动力量。它是一股冲破人与人之间隔阂之墙的力量，它使人与他人结合。爱让人克服孤寂与疏离感，但同时，它又允许人保持自我，保持自身的完整性。“

"Love is an active power in man; a power which breaks through the walls which separate man from his fellow men, which unites him with others; love makes him overcome the sense of isolation and separateness, yet it permits him to be himself, to retain his integrity."