He's Just Not That Into You | 他其实没有那么喜欢你

《他其实没有那么喜欢你》（He's Just Not That Into You）

作者： 格莱哥·里查（Greg Behrendt）与 丽兹·塔琪萝（Liz Tuccillo）
这两位作者曾是美剧《欲望都市》（Sex and the City）的编剧。这本书的核心逻辑非常“毒舌”却又清醒：如果一个男人对待你的方式让你感到困惑，那么答案通常只有一个——他其实没有那么喜欢你。

关于“忙”与“爱”

“忙和爱是不冲突的。别再为他找借口了。如果他真的很忙，忙到连发个短信、打个电话的时间都没有，那只能说明你在他心里的优先级极低。

真正喜欢你的人，哪怕是在拯救地球的间隙，也会想办法让你知道他在想你。忙碌，往往只是‘不够喜欢’最体面的借口。

如果他想见你，他会跨越半个城市来找你；如果他想和你说话，他会在开会的茶歇给你发信息。

请记住：如果一个男人对待你的方式，让你觉得他似乎并不在乎你，那么他真的就不在乎你。

别再去解读他那些模棱两可的行为，别再去研究他短信里的标点符号，也别再听信那些‘我很忙’、‘我还没准备好’、‘我受过伤’的鬼话。

这个世界上最简单的真理就是：喜欢你的人，会让你感觉到他的存在；不喜欢你的人，才会让你感到不安和猜测。

亲爱的，把你的时间留给那个不需要你苦苦等待、不需要你反复确认的人。你的爱很贵，别浪费在那个‘没那么喜欢你’的人身上。”


"Being busy and being in love are not in conflict. Stop making excuses for him. If he is truly so busy that he doesn't even have the time to send a text or make a quick phone call, it simply means you are at the very bottom of his priority list.

Someone who truly likes you—even in the intervals of saving the world—will find a way to let you know he’s thinking of you. Being 'busy' is usually just the most polite excuse for 'not liking you enough.'

If he wants to see you, he will cross half the city to find you. If he wants to talk to you, he will message you during a meeting break.

Please remember: If a man treats you in a way that makes you feel like he doesn’t care, then he really doesn’t care.

Stop over-analyzing his ambiguous behavior, stop studying the punctuation in his text messages, and stop believing the nonsense like 'I’m swamped,' 'I’m not ready,' or 'I’ve been burned before.'

The simplest truth in this world is this: Someone who likes you will make his presence felt; someone who doesn't will only leave you feeling anxious and guessing.

Darling, save your time for the person who doesn't make you wait in agony or force you to constantly seek confirmation. Your love is expensive; don't waste it on someone who is just not that into you."